Good afternoon, sweet friends. The weekend is finally here. In preparation for takeoff, please make sure all negative attitudes are properly stowed away. On behalf of myself and my non-existent crew, welcome aboard. I expect sunshine, rainbows, and good attitudes for the next two days, please. Pencils down, now close your books…oh, wait; we don’t use those anymore, do we? Never mind, just fasten those seatbelts and enjoy the ride.
I know, I know: The first five days after the weekend are the hardest. I see you. There you are, lurking about, sipping your coffee ever so slowly, and luxuriously reading your morning paper. It must be Sunday. Uh, oh; what day comes after Sunday? The day that feels like dropping your hot slice of pizza, cheese side down. Aaarg. Oh, look: It’s a new week; “time for a fresh start,” all the optimists holler. Yea, right. We know better. There’s still four more days to dread. Oh, wow, it’s Tuesday already. Well, it is still part of the first half of the week; so spare me if I don’t break out the champagne just yet. Ask me what day it is and all I ever answer is: “Still not Friday.”
Yes. We should all stop “waiting for Friday,” or summer or someone to fall in love with us. We should truly try to make the most of the moment we are in right now. And truth be told, we can use Sabbath and weekends to reflect on all the wondrous things in our lives that we are way too busy to contemplate on a Monday. Our focus can shift from jobs and possessions to family and friends. So we cannot simply Thank G-d it’s Friday. We can thank Him that it is another day.
For many, the weekend ushers in feelings of relief, even exhilaration. The thought of relaxing or spending time with loved ones can be the salvation that gets you through the week. But if you are lonely and have no one to share it with, then Friday, the gateway to the weekend, can spell anxiety, even dread for you. Or perhaps, if the kids are back to school, you’re a “Thank G-d it’s Monday” kinda gal.
So let’s see. What do you associate with Mondays? Having to get back to reality again. Work. School. Rise and shine. Okay, forget that – just caffeinate and hope for the best. And just what are those birds so excited about at 5 a.m? If each day is a gift, guess what? Some folks would like to know where they can return Mondays. Ha. But, perhaps you truly are one of the lucky ones who see that metaphor of a fresh start every single week. Then again, why is Monday so far away from Friday, but Friday is so close to Monday? Hmmm. And what about those radio stations that insist on playing “happy weekend” songs on Monday morning at 8 a.m. on your drive to work? Sheesh.
Oh, my. I actually made it through Monday and here comes Tuesday. Not feeling too worky today are ya? “Fine, I didn’t really get back on my post-weekend diet, but hey – it’s still technically the beginning of the week, so all is not lost, right?” Tuesday – yeah, it’s still a “does not play with others kinda day.” Moving right along…
But look, here comes “Woohoo Wednesday.” Whew, we made it through almost half the week. Uh, oh: You checked your mental forecast and it reads: zero percent fun until Friday. No wonder you’re grumpy, griping, and grouchy. C’mon, I can do this; it’s almost over. Fine, I still have two more whole days, but at least it’s not Monday.
Thursday. Anticipation, Anticipa-aa-ation. I know, Thursday doesn’t even exist. It’s just the thing that’s blocking Friday. The end of the work week is in sight. I feel it comin’. Almost time to power down those laptops and a thousand assorted devices.
Well, well, well, look what finally showed up: Tis Friday! You made it. Yes, indeed. Then again there’s Black Friday, where we trample all over each other exactly one day after being thankful for what we already have. But I digress…
We all have patterns and routines in our lives and, yes, we do react differently to “What day is it?” Is there a day for you that outshines all the others? Please do not let the day of the week bring you down. People, on average, have more heart attacks on Mondays, which, according to studies, is due to permanent stress, which many associate with the beginning of the work week. It is truly about our attitude. Want to know how I know? Because days off from work tend to generate better moods, regardless of what day of the week it falls on (unless, of course, you have to work on weekends…sorry). Most report fewer aches and pains over the weekend, as well. That is most likely due to being able to meet some of our psychological needs of rest, relaxation, and bonding.
How do you see it, sweet friends? Some say Friday the 13th is still better than Monday the Whatever. Or: Happiness is not having to set the alarm for the next day. Come Sunday afternoon, do you start dreading, and spend time not anticipating the next 40 hours?
Are you dreaming all week long about the freedom soon to come? Long, luxurious Friday night meals with friends. Tons of dessert just because. You can almost taste the wine, or grape juice, and feel that soft couch under your exhausted body for that well-deserved nap. Good bye spreadsheets, laundry, and responsibilities. Weekends should come with a pause button.
Do you start off the week with the Monday blues and end with Sunday letting loose? Is your mantra: “I haven’t been this excited about Friday since last Friday”? Or does it sometimes feel like: Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Blink, Monday.
Just think, sweet friends, with the right mindset, mood, and mental state we can make each day of the week like Friday. Time sure does fly. The weekend is here but…if you don’t live in the moment…
Don’t blink. You might just miss it.
Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an office in Queens. She works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at Safehavenhealing@gmail.com or at facebook.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.