Opinion

Do you ever feel guilt or shame without really being able to put your finger on why? You attended a social event and were convinced that people there did not especially like you. Or maybe you were just there for the free food? Speaking of which, I won’t be impressed with technology till I can download food. But seriously, they say: Some people look for a beautiful place. Others make a place beautiful. If you sensed that no one liked you, is there any evidence for what you came to believe?

Do you believe that the past is simply done, or that history is still being made and you can actually influence it? Of course, the way you entered the world carries inherent proclivities and propensities. Indeed, your family follows rules and traditions that have been in place for centuries, so can anything truly change?

How often do you find yourself questioning and doubting your own judgment? I used to think I was indecisive, but I’m not too sure anymore. Sheesh. You made a decision, but for some unknown reason it has now come under intense scrutiny and review by none other than you. Don’t let the mixed signals fool you. Indecision is a decision.

What do you think the key to your peace of mind is? Can you put it into words? What if you were told that you need not be upset or miserable if she judges you? It’s okay if he decides to simply walk away. Why lose your precious energy if there is nothing you can do about how others behave anyway?

On any given day, you might be discussing the most profound things with your mate or best friend—the political upheaval in the world or what love language you prefer. As the saying goes: “Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it everywhere, diagnosing it incorrectly, and applying the wrong remedies.” Perhaps you watch a documentary about the effects of social media on children.

Do you ever complain about how dull, dreary, or simply boring your life is? Perhaps you do the same thing day in and day out while nothing exciting or inspiring ever seems to happen. Of course you scroll on social media and immediately compare your ho-hum, uneventful routine to hers.