Dating Today

I published this letter a few years ago. It broke my heart and I’m sure the hearts of readers, as well. I never forgot about this woman because of what had happened to her, the cruelty and premeditation of it. What happened to her happened one Pesach. I’m republishing it now (sort of on its anniversary.)

Two letters about the same topic from different perspectives.

I want to begin this article by writing that I am not an expert in this (or many) fields. The purpose of this column is to help those who are dating with questions about what may have come up while on a date or to let them vent. I answer them as would a friend. I’m not a rebbetzin. I’m not a very learned person. I am someone who has gone through the wringer while dating and may be able to share some insights and use some examples of what I have experienced to help others in need of guidance, an opinion of a non-involved third party with their dating questions. It is important for me to write this now and for all of you to read.

Dear Goldy:

Years ago, I dated someone I really liked. He didn’t “feel it,” and stopped seeing me. We went our separate ways; he found his “bashert” and had a family. I kept dating and working on myself: I lost weight, got Lasik surgery, etc.

Dear Goldy:

You don’t know me, and I don’t know you, but I read your column and figured this was the perfect place to say what I have to say. And this is directed to all my “friends and acquaintances” and those who “mean well” when talking to my parents.

Dear Goldy:

 I have gone out with someone a few times. This may be too soon to ask or to discuss, but at some point, it should be. And maybe someone else has a similar situation, so this could help others. Who knows if I’ll still be dating him by the time the email is published (please publish it).