Torah

Question: When asked about a certain boy or girl for purposes of shidduchim, is it permitted to speak lashon ha’ra about the boy or girl?

Question: Is it permitted to jokingly speak lashon ha’ra?

Short Answer: It is forbidden to jokingly speak lashon ha’ra, although the severity of the prohibition is debated by the poskim.

Question: How does one do t’shuvah for speaking lashon ha’ra?

Short Answer: One who speaks lashon ha’ra and causes damage to the person being spoken about must seek forgiveness from that person, as well as following the regular t’shuvah process for sins between man and Hashem. He should also learn Torah.

Question: Is it permitted to praise your friend in front of other people?

Short Answer: It is forbidden (avak lashon ha’ra) to speak positively about your friend in front of his enemies or, even in front of friends if you excessively speak positively about him.

Question: Is it permitted to share with others a secret told to you in confidence?

Short Answer: No, a person, for multiple reasons, should not reveal secrets to others.

Question: Is it permitted to speak lashon ha’ra where your words have a productive purpose (to’eles) but are also said out of hatred?