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Dear Goldy,

Call me old-fashioned, but I don’t believe someone should introduce the person they’re dating to family and friends until it’s established the relationship is going somewhere—or even wait until after the engagement. Why bother meeting and getting to know people if the relationship fizzles quickly? That’s what makes meeting the other person’s circle of friends and family all the more special, because then you know you will all be a part of each other’s lives for years to come.

This is a different type of letter. Most of you aren’t expecting it. But I’ve allowed people to vent in my column, and this mother really needed to vent...

Dear Goldy,

I may be out of tune with how the younger generation dates, but I don’t think I’m so out of tune that what my son told me is totally correct.

In last week’s column, I published a letter from a mother whose son is diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder among other diagnoses. Through a conversation with her preteen daughter, she felt like she was just hit with a ton of bricks, fully realizing and accepting that her son would not have any of the experiences one has when they are in the parshah; finding someone you develop feelings for, love, a proposal, marriage, and raising a family with... Where is her son’s shidduch?

Dear Goldy,

I have done every segulah anyone ever mentioned to me (and my mother). I’ve davened, been to Amukah several times, recited Shir Hashirim for a month several times throughout the past years, and have worn my friends’ jewelry at their chupos. I’ve visited shadchanim up and down the East Coast, in Israel—wherever or whomever I’m told to go to, I go, even to mekubalim. It got so that one of my co-workers told me to find a shadchan in Bermuda so I can take a vacation while trying to find my bashert. There’s nothing I won’t do to try and move on to the next stage of my life. And I do it all with a smile. I haven’t had any terrible dating experiences, but the guys I’m being set up with aren’t right. They’re close, but not right. And no, I don’t say no to everyone. Many times, I have been the heartbroken one when the relationship ends because the guy didn’t see a future with me beside him.

No matter if we’re 19, single, married for 50 years, or divorced... we have all asked ourselves the same question this reader has.