Queens Jewish Link
Connecting the Queens Jewish Community I was daydreaming the other day and a song popped into my head, thankfully it was not a song from...
Dear Goldy:
I have been dating my boyfriend off and on for almost a year. Just when things seem to be going great, something happens, we argue, break up – but then a month or two later, or even less, we decide to give it another try.
Dear Goldy:
I’m writing because I think my son is hurting himself. He was set up with a girl. My son likes her. He hasn’t dated anyone else for this long. But he’s afraid to take the next step, because she earns more money than he does. Her position in the company she works for is more prestigious than his is at his company.
When I run into friends in the neighborhood, it’s usually in one of the grocery stores. When they ask, “Where’ve you been?” – because they haven’t seen me in a while – I always say I’m either working, home, or here shopping. The last time an encounter such as this happened, instead of catching up on each other’s lives, my friend asked if all the letters I publish and respond to are real. When I was asked that by an individual I was meeting with for work, then I knew I had to write this specific column.
This isn’t a letter asking a question, but someone telling us what he really feels and wanting others to know it as well.
Dear Goldy:
My sister called last night and told me to get my dancing shoes ready because her daughter Raizy became a kallah. I was shocked, surprised, happy…and confused. A few weeks ago, my sister said that Raizy, her eldest, was going to start dating. I laughed and told her she better be ready for the long haul. Three out of my four children are, bli ayin ha’ra, married. I know the ups and downs and craziness that goes on.
We hope that our loved ones date and marry someone who is a good, caring person – someone who will love and appreciate them for the rest of their lives. It would also be an added plus if the spouse got along with the rest of the family. Many times, while “researching” a shidduch, one will ask about “his/her family.” You’ll find out about siblings and whom they married – and always it’s “They are a great family,” but you never really find out about the family dynamics.
