Opinion

Dear Goldy,

My family isn’t rich. We’re middle class, maybe in the middle of middle class, if I had to label it. My siblings and I started working as teenagers, and we’ve always bought what we wanted. Our parents took care of our needs, but if there was anything special any of us wanted, we’d pay for it ourselves. After high school, I seriously started thinking about saving for my wedding.

Dear Goldy,

My son is 28 and began dating an older woman. She’s 33 and divorced. I don’t think my son needs to be dating older divorced women yet. He’s young enough to see what single girls his age are around. If he were in his mid-thirties, then I don’t think I’d mind so much. But to do it in his twenties seems too soon or rushed.

Dear Goldy,

I know never to look a gift horse in the mouth, and I never have, but at my family’s Chanukah party, I couldn’t help myself.

Here I go again…

Dear Goldy,

My son is 28 and began dating an older woman. She’s 33 and divorced. I don’t think my son needs to be dating older divorced women yet. He’s young enough to see what single girls his age are around. If he were in his mid-thirties, then I don’t think I’d mind so much. But to do it in his twenties seems too soon or rushed.

Dear Goldy,

I’m dating someone that I hope, by the time this letter is published (if you publish it), will be my chasan. The only thing I’m worried about is that people, namely my friends, are telling me that once I’m married, I won’t be calling them so often or getting together like we usually do. I’ll be too busy being a newlywed, and it’s normal to get swept up in things during the first few months, or six months. They say they’ll be lucky if I remember their names, and what usually happens is that I’ll get to know and grow close with my chasan’s friends’ wives. Nothing is wrong with that. I can add to my friend group or have two separate friend groups. I have friends from school, from work, some I met within the last couple of years…