In order to make a covenant with Lavan, Yaakov told “his brothers” to take stones. Yaakov had only one brother, Eisav, who was not with him at the moment. The midrash cited by Rashi points out that his “brothers” refer to Yaakov’s sons, whom he called brothers. The question is, what are the midrash and Rashi teaching us here? Why does the Torah refer to Yaakov’s sons as his brothers? Let the Torah call them his sons. Rav Shlomo Wolbe zt”l explains that part of chinuch is to have your children become your partners. If a child feels that he is a partner in his parents’ mitzvah and chesed activities, he does not feel that he is being forced to do something, or that his parents are providing for someone else rather than attending to the child’s needs. Quite the contrary, he feels honored by the responsibility (Zeriah U’Vinyan B’Chinuch, page 27).