Dating Today

A decade ago, I sent an anonymous letter to the Yated. It was a thank-you letter to klal Yisrael. I wanted to reach as many people as possible in klal Yisrael and figured the readership of the Yated was a good way to reach many. A decade ago, a member of my family needed a r’fuah sh’leimah. Doctors were baffled at the disease her body was trying to fight.

I’ve always said that having differences of opinion is good for a relationship. But some take that too far. Too many times I have heard that a couple stopped dating “because he/she thought that ______. I mean, isn’t that the stupidest thing you’ve ever heard?” No. Breaking up with them over that is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard – or one of the Top Ten.

Dear Goldy:

I’m writing to you to settle an issue I’m having with my sister. My sister is certain you’ll agree with her. And obviously, I’m certain you’ll agree with me. We need you to break the tie and really put an end to the whole thing.

Keeping with the theme of June graduations, I, too, have pearls of wisdom I’d like to pass along to daters, new and experienced. I have so much to write, to pass on, but I’m limited by space and the number of words I’m allotted. Below are just a few points I wanted daters to read. There are many more, and no I don’t think these are the most important, which is why they are here. They were randomly chosen from my mind.

Dear Goldy:

My son is 27 and began dating an older woman. She’s 33 and divorced. It’s not that I don’t like her; I don’t even know her. But I don’t think my son needs to be dating older divorced women. He’s young enough to see what single girls his age are out there.

Dear Goldy:

My parents are divorced. My father remarried. My siblings and I don’t spend a lot of time with him. We really didn’t have a choice or a say in whom he married, but we were fine with that. We lucked out. His wife is nice and doesn’t seem to mind when I or any of my siblings is around.