Hashem wants marriage to work, so He created many tools that build true love. These tools need to be used, regularly and intentionally, to keep building the connection. We’ve discussed infatuation; it’s easy, almost reflexive. It helps start things off, but once it evaporates it’s gone. Romance is another tool that a couple needs to use throughout their marriage to keep rejuvenating the connection. Later, we’ll discuss desire, physical attraction, and intimacy—all powerful forces that bring a husband and wife closer. But again, they are tools, not ends in themselves. The goal is a deep connection and attachment—love.